Are you creating negative stories about the people around you?
Today I want to talk about values, not your values, but somebody you’re close to.
We might notice a person we’re close to doing something and judge how it makes our life easy or difficult. It’s human nature to sometimes create negative stories about other people like ‘they’re slow’ or ‘they’re abstract.’
But when we dig deeper, maybe that person who we call slow, is actually committed to the details and doing an excellent job, or the person we think is abstract might be creating new innovative ideas; they might be expressing values like responsibility and creativity. Yet we can create stories about what we think is going on, and that can get in the way of our relationships with people.
When you start to recognize values in yourself, you begin to practice great values-listening skills that can be used in the relationships around you, where you show up as more loving, compassionate, and as a more effective communicator.
I invite you to pay attention to the people around you and to ponder,
- What behavior am I noticing?
- What values are they expressing? Be curious.
When you start to recognize other people’s values, you can begin to support and cheer them on in a new way because they may be doing something 100% in alignment with their values.